hate my father and mother?

i don't, but i'm beginning to see how this might work. maybe it's just that they think i do. maybe this is what i surrendered to - a life of my family not understanding why i choose this over them.

"If anyone comes to me and does not hate his father and mother, his wife and children, his brothers and sisters—yes, even his own life—he cannot be my disciple. And anyone who does not carry his cross and follow me cannot be my disciple." - Luke 14:26-27

i want to know what Jesus meant when He said this. what He really, actually meant.

show me, God.